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Whilst this has only happened a handful of times i

Whilst this has only happened a handful of times in the last decade for me, it has happened twice in the last month + with friends I’ve been very close with for a number of years.

In both cases it was very clear that the respect I had for them was not reciprocated + the friendships were based more on what I could do for them + one of them - how they could profit from me.

In situations like this it’s important to reflect upon our own participation too - not just what the other person has done.

It’s important to notice where we may have abandoned ourselves along the way, especially when we’ve turned a blind eye to certain behaviours we’ve observed or been on the receiving end of.

It’s also important for our own growth to verbalise what the issue is, why it’s an issue + what your expectations are going forward - or that you’ll be stepping away.

This is you advocating for yourself - something that may not have happened in the past.

You may wish to also complete an energetic cord cutting + I always like to honour the good times you’ve had too.

This is a clearing out + an upleveling + something we all navigate at some stage or another as we evolve + grow.

I’m curious, have you experienced something like this recently too?

When we grow up in an environment that’s chaotic

When we grow up in an environment that’s chaotic, unpredictable or where we didn’t feel safe in some way we often experience dorsal vagal shut down in adulthood.

You see, our experiences + unresolved trauma is still stored in our subconscious mind, our nervous system, our facia, our body. And whilst we may no longer be in ‘danger’ our nervous system doesn’t know this.

Our mind tells us we need to get moving while our body wants to protect you by shutting down.

Being in this state is absolutely exhausting as there’s a constant internal war happening between the two.

TO HEAL

▫️You need to create safety in your body.

▫️We don’t do this by putting pressure on ourselves - we create a safe space around us to slowly come out of freeze.

▫️We also must heal some of the more significant traumas that caused you to go into this state in the first place - we do this through inner child work deep in your subconscious.

▫️Also, reflect on your living environment, relationships + work environment - do they feel safe?

▫️If they feel emotionally or physically unsafe, you would also need to consider making changes here.

Lastly, start with small, manageable things first so as not to overwhelm yourself.

If you’d like support to dissolve the larger trauma causing this state, take a peek at my bio or send me a message + I’ll come back to you.

I’m curious, can you relate to being in dorsal vagal shutdown?

PRACTICAL TOOLS BELOW These are the types of patt

PRACTICAL TOOLS BELOW

These are the types of patterns that not only cause us to abandon ourselves, they also lead to physical illness, autoimmune disease, chronic fatigue etc.

The little inner children who learnt that they need to over function, still believe their safety depends upon them maintaining these patterns - regardless of the cost to them physically + emotionally.

It’s as if their life depends upon them playing out these patterns.

Just having an intellectual understanding + using mindset tools isn’t enough to actually dissolve the patterns - this requires much deeper, subconscious work.

WE HEAL these patterns inside all of my 1:1 programs, courses, mentorship + inside The Sanctuary Monthly Membership too - message me if you’d like to know more.

SOMETHING you can do today:

1. ASK yourself: what areas of my life do I ‘over- extend’ myself - do too much, give too much etc.

2. WHAT boundaries can you put in place to prevent you from doing this?

3. IDENTIFY One area, that you’d like to tackle first + put boundaries in

ALSO

4. TAKE a few minutes to sit quietly + ask to connect with the part of you who over functions, can’t say no, etc....

5. IMAGINE you can see or feel them + read this message or your version of this to them:

“I see you. I see how hard you’ve worked, for so long.

Thank you for doing what you’ve done to keep us safe + not abandoned.

I want you to know that I’m here now, I’m here to take care of you, so you don’t need to do these things any more.

I’m here to take care of you now, so you can learn how to rest + receive.”

Let me know how this lands for you!

Much love,

Jen xo

NOTE One or two of these indicators do not equate

NOTE One or two of these indicators do not equate to spiritual narcissism, rather several of them do

We’ve been seeing a rise in spiritual narcissism for a few years now which is such a shame for those who are genuine in this space.

SO many people are being ‘sucked in’ + exploited as a result. Some are being exploited financially, while others are being siphoned energetically.

Spiritual Narcissism is highly parasitic - energetically.

Having a large account or ‘followers’ is Class A narcissistic supply + so is being seen as a teacher or guru - enlightened above everyone else.

Working with these individuals will leave you feeling drained energetically + financially + often confused as to what actual transformative work has been done.

Usually there’s none.

THERE’S been a huge shift in 2025 towards Truth + authenticity - more so than ever before.

We’re able to see with greater clarity what’s performative or parasitic + what is Truth.

BEFORE entering into a work relationship or handing over your hard earned money, I would invite you to ask yourself:

1. Does this person feel authentic - or are they just using clever words?

2. What outcomes can I expect from working with them?

3. Testimonials are key - what are previous clients saying? No testimonials = 🚩

Trust your gut. You know within yourself what is right for you + what isn’t.

💬 I’m Curious - have you come across spiritual narcissism in this space too?

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